today, we’re celebrating the first anniversary of hot singles’ hottest couple.
jillian, aka crossword cutie, was featured on hot singles in late august of 2021. about a month later, her interest was piqued by future merman, aka max, so she sent a response:
and the rest is hot singles history! i recently caught up with them on a video call to get the scoop on their love story. read about their first date, toxic traits, and more below.
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randa: Can you guys tell me about your first date?
max: Very fun and very classic and straightforward. Jillian was like 30 minutes late and very, very nervous about it.
jillian: I was really sweaty. And then I was really stressed about how sweaty I was.
max: I think there's a kind of air of mystery and clout where you're like, oh, this person was on Hot Singles, they're probably cool. And if they're cool, and they're late, then they're doing something cool and that's why they were late. That was my thought process at the time.
jillian: I was changing my tank top like four different times. That’s what I was doing. And then, I had just quit my job and started a new one and as I was talking about it every single one of my old coworkers walked by and then came over like, “Oh my god are you guys on a date?” and they all were sweet and from across the room being like, “He’s really cute!”
max: We made out at Alibi. Honestly a great place to make out. I would earnestly plug it.
randa: When did you guys know that this was a thing?
max: I was very into it from early on and I remember like, telling friends after the first date like, damn, I fucked that up. I'm probably never gonna see her again, which is sad because I really liked her.
jillian: Yeah after the first date I had a weekend with my friends and it was very fun to be like, I got news! I went on a date and I really liked him and here’s his Hot Singles profile. And then yeah like a month in, I think we both were like wow, this is something more than maybe we expected.
randa: Do you guys remember each other’s Hot Singles profiles?
jillian: Back in the day it was one of my most visited web pages because I was like, I’m dating this guy.
max: “Some 1-Down 4-Across The Table Flirting” comes up all the time. My family loves it and talks about it.
randa: Was there anything in particular about each other’s profiles that stuck out to you?
jillian: His answer about what subculture he was involved in was sort of disarmingly honest and personal in a way that I don’t think it had to be. It was just an immediate, oh I feel like I know something serious about you, and that took me by surprise.
max: You did a very good job of being like: smart, hot, cool. Because there’s no way to know if someone is nice or a good person or a real human being from one of these. But you’re like, I’m in a band, I’m good at crosswords, and then the photos.
jillian: Yeah I was like, he’s really handsome, he seems sincere, and he’s funny.
max: What I do remember is the “bring me to a party and I’ll make friends all over the place.” Neither of us are really good at that.
jillian: When I wrote that it was true.
max: You also never listen to or talk about Radiohead.
jillian: You're not a mediocre swimmer. That's a lie. I think you're a very good swimmer. You're a strong swimmer!
randa: On that topic, has Max made any progress on his goal of being a swimmer in the Rockaways?
jillian: I don’t know about that but we’ve gone swimming a bunch together.
max: Yeah, I think we’re very aquatic for living in New York.
randa: What sorts of aquatic things have you done?
jillian: On our second date we went to the beach which was weird because it was October. We drove to the Rockaways kind of early and went to a deli and got some bagels and had a little beach picnic. We saw some dolphins. What other aquatic stuff have we done?
max: We went to Mexico and did a bunch of beach stuff, we went to the Rockaways a ton.
jillian: We went to California, we hit swimming holes upstate.
max: What else?
jillian: I don’t know. I want to swim in every type of body of water with you. After my friend’s wedding we swam in the Delaware River. We got rivers, we got swimming holes, we got oceans.
randa: Jillian, what do you think Max’s toxic trait is?
jillian: He loves to play things by ear. When are we meeting? We’re gonna play things by ear.
max: Valid point. I think you could have gone harder.
jillian: I don’t know, you’re not toxic.
randa: Max, what do you think Jillian’s toxic trait is?
max: You are too wonderful and too nice to too many people. And then that sets you up to be annoyed by people who are not able to meet you at your level.
randa: Jillian, what makes Max hot?
jillian: Oh my gosh, I mean everything about you is hot. I love how deeply you love the people in your life and how much you truly show up for people and I feel really lucky to be included in that. That’s such a hot quality of genuine care and affection and showing up in big ways for others. He’s really good at chopping things. He’s so good at mincing and chopping garlic. It’s really sexy. I’m thinking. Feel free to jump in.
max: Every single time I see a Razor Braids show (Jillian’s band), it reminds me of this feeling, which is what my answer is to what makes Jillian hot. I think people who are really talented can be jerks about it, or distance themselves from others, or feel some need to affirm how good they are. And Jillian is really talented and wonderful at a lot of things, but does it in a very inclusive way where it’s more self-assured and not about how she needs to be perceived. She does the things that she loves to do in a graceful way. And that’s super hot. She has big beautiful eyes. I love the eyes.
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