27M Future Merman Seeks Seaside Sweetie

hey hotties!

this week’s hot single has aspirations to become a prolific swimmer, but our future merman is more than just a pair of ocean eyes. after going through a tough personal experience, he turned a bad situation into a sense of connection and real impact on the lives of others. the weather’s getting cooler, but that doesn’t mean it’s too late to go under the sea…

stay hot 🥵


p.s. the first edition of the advice column Help me, Randa! is live. wanna get your question answered next? submit a cheeky q

tell us about a subculture or community you’re part of and how you got involved

So, end of 2019/pre-pandemic, I got wildly sick out of nowhere. Turns out, at 25, I had developed type 1 diabetes (which is something that doesn’t happen a lot or really ever) and I was scared/clueless/confused. A few months into the wilderness, I found a group called #t1international, which is a national network of local chapters where diabetics come together, support each other, and advocate for affordable insulin and an end to for-profit healthcare garbage.

The interpersonal support was huge in terms of navigating a chronic illness I knew nothing about. But beyond that, it was super uplifting to get tied into a group of people who had taken this L they had been handed and turned it into a reason for taking collective action to fight for themselves and other people who are dependent on outrageously priced drugs.  This kind of advocacy is now a big part of what I do for work, so a humongous shout out to T1 for getting me going.

what is one thing on your bucket list?

I’m trying to age gracefully into being one of those old men who goes to Rockaway beach, dons a speedo, pops on a swim cap, then goes open ocean swimming for like two hours and returns to the beach like it’s no big deal. I’ve loved the ocean since I was a kid, and that kind of fearless dive out into the deep has always seemed like the coolest, most transcendental type of exercise that exists. 

All that said, I’m a mediocre swimmer with no speedo and no swim cap. So I have my work cut out for me. But I’m gonna do it.

😈 what’s your toxic trait?

A slight overidentification as being a lifelong NYer. Sometimes my over-New-Yorkiness can be endearing, and maybe even practical/helpful. But there’s no doubt that it slips into useless nostalgia, “back in my day, each of these five chase banks used to be CBGBs” mode. 

🥵 what makes you hot?

I’ve got a lot of energy that I earnestly enjoy sharing with people. That kind of makes me sound like an overactive dog, which isn’t fully accurate, but really it means I’m curious/adventurous/trying to do a lot of different stuff with intention. All that energy makes me an excellent partner in crime for any kind of action on the wholesome (cooking elaborate dinners at home) to unwholesome (late night train yard raves) spectrum. I also have very pretty eyes. 

🔎 who are you looking for?

A woman who’s self-assured and down to be out and about. Big bonus if you have a pet, I've got a small-animal-sized hole in my heart and I’m trying to be a stepfather. 

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