hey harry and david – super cool of you guys to weigh in. Lots of thoughts here:
IMHO if you told them you loved them within the last 3 years OR if you have fully transitioned to a place of friendship/acquaintanceship: you text them.
Otherwise you don’t. It’s ultimately a gesture that says “I care about you as a person!” so you just need to decide whether u want to say that to your ex or not.
harry it is clear that you are a cerebral bb and i love the flowcharts. i think more like david. my strategy is to never remember their bday in the first place. and i guess im not pro texting exes no matter what - it's good to move on w life. echoing following on IG forever and never texting however LOL, if an ex posts their bday on social media i think a lil "hbd" reply is acceptable. but i dislike bday online posting in general - doxxing your PII is not hot
I appreciate your thoughts here. However, I think answering a question like this one by trying to identify scenarios in which it is not ok risks missing the forest for the trees.
dave has got this nailed. not everything requires a treatise. some things are as smooth and simple as peanut butter and gravy.
more of a pb&j person myself
hey harry and david – super cool of you guys to weigh in. Lots of thoughts here:
IMHO if you told them you loved them within the last 3 years OR if you have fully transitioned to a place of friendship/acquaintanceship: you text them.
Otherwise you don’t. It’s ultimately a gesture that says “I care about you as a person!” so you just need to decide whether u want to say that to your ex or not.
Respectfully, I totally disagree
harry it is clear that you are a cerebral bb and i love the flowcharts. i think more like david. my strategy is to never remember their bday in the first place. and i guess im not pro texting exes no matter what - it's good to move on w life. echoing following on IG forever and never texting however LOL, if an ex posts their bday on social media i think a lil "hbd" reply is acceptable. but i dislike bday online posting in general - doxxing your PII is not hot
Data Privacy Hottie would agree
Here's my thinking. It's not okay to text them HB if:
A) You're still in love with them, want to get them back and they're in a relationship with someone else.
B) They asked you never to speak to them again
everything else its fine I think??
I appreciate your thoughts here. However, I think answering a question like this one by trying to identify scenarios in which it is not ok risks missing the forest for the trees.